I have a question: Has something every happened in your life, you felt you could cope or manage, that you could keep going with what you had to work with and then it took on a life of its own and you got really far into it before saying, “uh oh, what do I do now”?
Could be big or small. Could be that you took on a plumbing project that turned out to require professional help in the end. Could be that you knew that whatever food you were eating was giving you heartburn, so you took the TUMS and kept eating the food until you reached a breaking point and had to stop eating said food because you got an ulcer. It could be that you started turning to alcohol or pot to help take the edge off a bad day at work, because those were the tools you had at the time to cope with whatever was happening. Could be that you, ahem, decided that you could handle relentless insomnia on your own for four months then broke down crying on the phone with a friend who then said, “get thee to a doctor!” (Oh that last one? Not me, not me at all…)
I’m convinced that we have all had these moments in some form or another – the details, and severity, of what it was exactly will of course, vary from person to person. That’s the beauty of being human, or so I am told! We all have our limits, we all have different sets of tools (both literal and metaphorical) and we all reach a point when we say (or are forced to say), “I cannot keep going on this way any longer!”
The other great beauty in being an adult human is that we can ask for help, we can seek care, and we can make changes to our circumstances (within limits, of course) so that we can feel more like ourselves again.
We also learn, and if we continually show up for ourselves, we gain wisdom and the ability to weather storms in different ways than in times past. What a gift that is!
If you are interested in hearing about what Wood Betony has to do with any of this, watch the video, then keep watching for some personal insights about how we can recover from hard things, about pride and stubbornness, and about feeling humbled when presented with new challenges.